6 months later….
D1 (D’s older brother) is my Man of Honour. He didn’t get to come to pick THE dress so as a follow up, I figured it was only right that he got to come with me to pick up THE dress. It was important to me that he see me first and add his two-bits. A male perspective if you will and most certainly, a male perspective that I hoped would reflect his brother’s.
D1 and I walked into the shop together. They were expecting me and already had THE dress hanging in a change room (still under cover of a garment bag – but ready to go). “Isn’t it bad luck to have him here?” The clerk asked. Both of us were quick to correct her…
“Not the groom!” We laughed. It wasn’t the first time. D1 and I scoped out the reception venues with the same assumptions being made by the sales staff.
It was time. 6 months had passed and I was just a little excited to try on THE dress. Having it be mine made things that much more real. It had already been nearly a month since I had put D on the plane to go back East. I was missing him.
The garment bag was opened and the back of the dress exposed. Hmmm I thought, THE dress I thought was a bit more tea dyed. Eh, what do I remember it has been 6 months. The clerk undid the zipper. Ummm did’t THE dress have a row of pearls on the zipper line? I stepped into the change room. Alone with THE dress. I fumbled for a moment, not sure what to do. I looked at the dress. What could I do? I pulled out the receipt. Same number on the tags, same name on the tag, same measurements on the tag. Obviously I didn’t remember THE dress. Over the 6 months, my memory had created a completely different dress. Put the dress on Sam!
Stripped down to underwear and socks, I stepped into the dress. The form fitted dress. THE dress was A-line. This dress was fitted. I fumbled around for a moment trying to do up the zipper. I looked down and behind me. This dress had a train. THE dress did NOT have a train. I was getting married at a country church on the prairie. THE dress did not have a train! THE dress was country and simple. It was fun and like me, ready to dance the night away. THE dress was SAM!
The clerk was now behind me doing up the zipper. The zipper that fit over the curve of my backside, the small of my back, glided smoothly over my spine and rested exactly where it was designed to rest. I let out my breath. It took 6 months for this dress to show up. This was not THE dress. It was however a dress. I didn’t love THE dress, I liked it. Did it really matter?
The curtain was thrown open. I was expected to walk out, stand on the pedestal, and with damp teary eyes, show D1 the dress. That is what every bride-to-be does right? Instead, I stood there stunned. But that’s when the magic happened. I looked at D1 and he looked at me. His jaw had dropped and he said “Your beautiful.”
It was time to give this dress a chance. I walked out, stepped up onto the raised circle and looked at the mirror. This wasn’t THE dress but this was MY dress.
MY dress has sparkle and flatters my curves, MY dress is silver tones and has lace that is…. well…. a little less country and a little more rock and roll SAM. The other Sam. The Sam that D fell in love with. The Sam that tried on far too many shoes but found the perfect ones in the end. The Sam who will wear her Cinderella pale blue Fluevogs that will carry her down the aisle to her Prince and Dragon Slayer. The man who patiently waited for her a for lifetime. The one who taught her, it was safe to love again. This was MY dress.
D1 and I headed for dinner, having My dress neatly packaged and in the back of my jeep. “I must tell you Sam, that isn’t the dress I imagined you in.”
“Me neither,” I laughed and then over a glass of wine, explained “not exactly as shown.”